A Wife Who: Message to my 22-year-old self

Find yourself a wife that is kind, caring, and good.

Find someone you know will be a good mother not by any one action or by any words but by their being; who they are.

Find someone who will love, uplift, and support you through everything you want to accomplish.

Here’s an important one: find someone that will love you conditionally. The world says to find someone that loves you unconditionally. That’s too easy. Where is the growth and progression in being loved unconditionally? Find someone who wants you to improve and be better as much as you yourself want to improve and be better.

Find someone who also wants to be better.

When two people independently want to be stronger and better, they collectively become stronger and better.

As important as someone who loves you conditionally, find someone who loves the Lord unconditionally. Find someone who has a testimony of what is important in this life. While the world moves and shakes, find someone with a foundation. So that if ever your foundation becomes weak, you have someone whose foundation is strong.

Keep your foundation strong for that person as well, so that they can rely on you when their foundation needs shoring up.

Find someone who wants God to be a part of your life, family, and home. If God is in your home, your home can never fail.

Find someone with faith. Find someone with devotion. Find someone you can trust.